Well, it’s been a while since my last post, several months actually. Lots has happened since then. I think the biggest thing is that we relocated back to NYC after five years of living in Charlotte NC.
It’s crazy, you never really know how accustomed you’ve become to something until you don’t have it anymore.
Charlotte really changed us. In some ways good, in some ways not so good. But all were lessons learned and permanently branded into who we are as people.
It almost feels like we’re re-learning how to be New Yorkers. Whether its readjusting to the volume and speed that people speak at or making sure that I don’t take my sweet time moving after the traffic light has turned green. I mean I swear, you would think that someone’s life depended on how quickly you got going after the light changes.
Anyway. I think we’re doing a pretty good job considering. It’s taking some time, but we’re getting there.
It’s really hard sometimes though. I sometimes feel like God does something big and monumental like this, then kinda drops off the scene afterward. Now I know that’s not true, but it does feel like that.
I sometimes wish God would just speak to and guide me continually. Like every step of the way. At least that how I think a times. I used to think that God wanted to micro-manage every little detail of my life, but I’m not so sure about that anymore.
One morning while in prayer I was talking to God about this very thing and I felt like He spoke something to my heart. He said that its not so much that He wants control of every detail as much as He wants to have my whole heart. If He has my whole heart, then the decisions I make will always be in light of wanting to please Him. And if that’s true, then He can lead and guide me as I try to navigate and figure out what His will is. Also there’s the taking steps of faith in that process. If we always just waited for God to bark directions at us, them where is waking by faith and not by sight?
I understand this is my mind, I get it if I meditate on it enough, but I’m so quick to forget when it’s crunch time.
There are a number of areas that I know God has given me new understanding in, but I still have yet to see these revelation if you will, burned into my heart.
I so desperately want that.

Well, another cool thing is my son Levi turned two years this past February. He’s such a little miracle, such a character, such a joy and challenge all at the same time. How is that even possible!? How is it that you can love this little person so much but wanna headlock him also at times? Crazy.

Anyway, I’ll end this now, but I’m definitely gonna get back to blogging, hopefully much more often, even if its just quick entries. I gotta get more consistent with this.

Blessings!

It’s official.
I didn’t think the day would come, but it has. And I didn’t see it coming.
My kid is that kid. Yes, that kid.
You know, the one. The one that is screaming his head off in the isle of Target or the Supermarket.
The one that you can hear from the other side of the store, and you stop and stare because it sounds like his parents are killing him, when in reality he’s doing it all by himself.
Yup, that one.
Levi was such an easy and quiet baby, but it seems as though those days are passing right before our eyes.
The truth is he’s still a really good baby, but he’s teething real bad. Not to mention that he needs that mid-day nap, because if he doesn’t get it…. boy.
He’s got this defiant cry that to me just came out of no where. I mean he cried before, but of he’s really tired, hungry, or is trying to tell us what he wants compared to what we’re telling him, there it comes.
High pitch, shrill, strong and defiant.
I gotta be honest, his crying doesn’t bother me, but when he cries like that, like we’re killing him, it gets underneath my skin. Few things send me “there”, but for some reason that cry just does it to me. And it doesn’t take long.
Shamefully, I admit it takes all the patience I can muster up to keep from losing it at that moment.
Yeah, go ahead and give me the look but you know you’ve been there, done that too. I’m just saying what you’re thinking.
I’m just being real. Parenting is incredible, and I wouldn’t trade it for anything. My son is perfect, but I sure am not.
I’m only human.

Recently I did a four-day fast with a friend of mine.
It went from Tuesday morning to Friday at sunset.
And let me say that I use the term fasting loosely because although at one time I was very disciplined in fasting, I’ve let myself go quite a bit in this area.

But anyway, we were praying and agreeing for a couple of things, mainly breakthrough and direction. My main prayer during those four days was, “Lord wake me and my wife up from spiritual sleep, wake us up!”

I can honestly say that on the first day I felt like my prayers were reaching heaven, and then the rest of the week life happened, and there went my fervent prayers. They were more like a drive through, on the way to whatever I was doing at the moment, oh let me utter a quick prayer because I just remembered I’m supposed to be fasting and praying, so I better do it.

Well, despite my feeble efforts, Jesus heard my prayer and is answering…. but not the way I anticipated. Isn’t that how it usually goes?

Let’s digress for a second.

I work in the Collections industry, which at the end of the day, boils down to numbers. I was pulled into my manager’s office and told that my pay was being reduced because I haven’t met my monthly quota, and if I don’t meet my quota this month my pay will be reduced even further. And honestly the reduction is drastic. I’ve been trying to do my best, but it hasn’t been working. And there are a number of factors that contribute to that, not to mention that the way we collect debt is shady.

The funny thing is that I know that I know that God gave me this job when I needed it, but that’s another blog post. The other thing is I haven’t been doing good for a while, despite my best efforts, but by the grace of God, my pay remained intact.

So to say the least I was pissed, frustrated, and I wanted to give up, curl up into a ball, and just sulk. I get paid just enough to cover everything, that way Diane can stay home with Levi, raise him at home until it’s time to go to school, and she can continue to build her photography business, so hopefully we can actually live off of it one day. And again I’m trying my best but it’s not working. On the other side of the coin, I want out of my job badly because it is so shady, and I’m tired of it. I don’t want to work in this industry or environment any longer, not because I’m lazy, spoiled and ungrateful that I have a job in the midst of rising unemployment rates. It’s really become a moral issue. Nuff said.

So I’m freaking out, I tell Diane, she’s stressed because this is yet another issue added on top of some other things we’re facing. She’s tired and frustrated because we can’t ever seem to get a break. I tell her it’ll be ok, but inside I really don’t have any faith or grounding to base that on. The truth is I’ve been having some really hard times in my relationship with God, and I was becoming more distant and prayerless.

A day went by and I’d been thinking about it all, and I realized, “You prayed for God to wake you up”. HELLO! That’s like praying , “Use me Lord however you want, take me where ever you want”. I might as well have placed a large X on my chest. I also realize that the Lord had been waiting for me to pray this kind of prayer, and was all too happy to take me up on the request. And so instead of just answering my prayer and zapping me which is what I was hoping for, He’s put us in a circumstance to cause us to seek Him, which will cause us to pray, and wake up.

And it’s working.

Two weeks ago, Pastor Steven preached his last installment of the sermon series “Room 101: Facing your greatest fears”. One of his points really hit home after the Lord brought it back to my memory while praying. He spoke about how Elijah prayed for Elisha’s eyes to be opened so that he could see that they that were with them were more than they that were against them. Elisha’s eyes were opened and he saw the hills were full of horses and chariots of fire.

His point was that provision was already made ahead of time for the problem despite Elisha’s inability to see it. And it wasn’t a matter of God providing, it was a matter of Elisha’s eyes being opened to what was there all along. This is one of the verses I’m holding onto during this time. I keep telling myself, “the hills are full already, the hills are full”.

I gotta be honest, I didn’t anticipate my prayers being answered this way, but I’m so glad they are. I feel awake, alive, despite the trial. My faith is rising up as I’m reminded of God’s past faithfulness and provision every time we’ve needed it. And it’s causing me to have faith that this will be no different. I also know that this is an act of love because He won’t leave us where we are.

Something else that the Lord reminded me of was of a scripture He spoke to me through at the beginning of the year. James 1:1-4 states:

Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters,whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything”.

The disciples of that day were familiar with trials and suffering. It was a normal part of their Judeo-Christian experience. Also, their view of suffering was very, very different from ours in this modern church age. In this verse, Paul instructs believers to “consider it pure joy when you face trials of many kinds”.

Pure joy? Really? Yup, that’s what I said. But Paul explains why we can have joy, because trials are an opportunity for God to grow and mature you further, so that you lack nothing. And the reality is that God wants to continually make us more like Jesus. His ways just aren’t our ways.

Hebrews 5:7-9 says, “During the days of Jesus’ life on earth, he offered up prayers and petitions with fervent cries and tears to the one who could save him from death, and he was heard because of his reverent submission.  Son though he was, he learned obedience from what he suffered and, once made perfect, he became the source of eternal salvation for all who obey him…”

The truth is, if Jesus suffered, we’re gonna suffer.
The good news is that we don’t have to fear the world because Jesus overcame the world.

But the other thing that trials offer is an opportunity for God to do something awesome on our behalf. He gets to show off. And He gets the Glory. He gets to show us how much He loves us by not only allowing a trial to perfect us, but He also gets to show His love for us by bringing us through and displaying His power and provision.

So at the end of it, we really are better off when we face trials. And I know that’s counter-cultural, but it’s true. I know this trial we’re in is gonna pass, and God will bring us through, displaying His love, provision and power, and we’ll be more complete because of it.

My prayer right now? God give me the reverent submission that Jesus had, to endure and trust, as we wait on you and we see the chariots of fire that have been there the whole time.

~Marc

“You can’t let other people tell you who you are. You have to decide that for yourself.”

Pretty good quote, but I think this is a little bit better.

“You can’t let other people tell you who you are. You have to let Jesus decide that for you.”

Yeah, I like that a whole lot better.

I made a decision today.
I decided to disconnect from all… well, most social media.
I’ll be unplugging from Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.
I’m not really on YouTube much, though I do have a page with one whole video.
I do have this WordPress site and a Tumblr page (shameless plugs), which I haven’t really kept up with recently, so I hope to get back in the swing of things with those two.
So why the decision? Well, I’m glad you asked.
There are number of factors that have taken part in my decision. But I’ll put it to you this way.

I lead worship at Elevation Church. And instead of using stage wedges to hear the sound, we use in-ear monitors.
The advantage of using in-ear monitors is that you as an individual can set up your own mix. You decide what you want and don’t want to hear in your ears as far as instruments and singers. With wedges you pretty much hear everything, all the instruments, vocalists, and the speaker, and that’s not to mention any instrumental sound that bleeds over like the drums, the congregation singing, shouting, worshipping, etc. Another advantage to in-ears is that a good pair are made with custom ear molds, so they completely seal your ears, again so that you don’t get any external sound bleeding through, and you’re only hearing what you want/need to hear.

When I first started singing at Elevation I was new to in-ears, so I wasn’t familiar with how to set your mix for the best results. I used to get every instrument, every vocalist including myself of course. It was a lot for one pair of ears, and it wasn’t optimal. Really. it was too much. Having all that going in your ears could be a distraction. But then after sitting in a class about getting the best mix, the importance of really only having what you need and protecting your ears, my mix changed. Now I only get what I need, to be able to do what I need to do on weekends. I don’t have the full band in my ears, I don’t have all the vocalists either. The sound is much better, and I learned that less is more.

Do you get where I’m going with this?

I’ve got a lot going on, and a lot that I’d like to do, but there are so many voices and sounds in my mix right now, so much that’s bleeding through, and it’s too much. And it’s nobody’s fault but mine own. I set my own mix, and I just have too much in there.

I need to go back to basics.
I need to remember that less is more
I need to zero in on the what sounds best, what’s most beneficial.
I need to disconnect and reconnect with what’s most important.

Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with social media per say. There are definite benefits to it, but if you’re not careful, there are definite drawbacks to it as well. Maybe I’m just not as disciplined as others.

And to be truthful, I’ve toyed with the idea of disconnecting for a while, but always thought more of the con’s then the pro’s. I even thought of completely disconnecting my accounts for those social media platforms. But again, there are benefits and for some of the things I want to do it makes sense to keep them. So I’m disconnecting where I connect with them the most. My iPhone. I’m never on the computer at home, and all social media sites are blocked at work, so really my phone is the only point of real contact. So I’ll be deleting the apps, and will keep from re-installing them until I feel I’m good and ready.

I’ll be even more honest.

I need to re-connect with God.
I need to re-connect with my wife.
I need to re-connect with me.

Something Pastor said yesterday is his sermon resonated so much in my heart. We’re going through a sermon series dealing with our fears. He said that we’re so spiritually malnourished that we barely have the strength and faith to break through and overcome our weaknesses and fears. It’s not that we can’t, we’re just running real low if not just on empty (paraphrase). He also mentioned how God spoke to Elijah in a small whisper. With all that we can have going on in our lives, it’s no wonder we can’t hear the Lord.

I know this isn’t something new or revelatory, but really, this is about maintenance. And it’s something we should be doing on a regular basis. We have to be honest with ourselves about how we’re doing, because if we’re not, we’re gonna go deaf from all the crap coming in through our ear gates. We need to reduce what’s coming in, so we can zero in on the one voice that really matters and so we can do what He’s calling us to do.

So there it is, social media, I bid you adieu.
It’s not forever, but it is for now, and I’m not sure how long this will be for.
And it’s ok, you have plenty of others that have you in their mix, and I’m sure you’re sounding great. But for right now, you’re way to loud in my mix, and I’ve decided that instead of lowering your levels, I’m having you taken out altogether.

Sorry I haven’t written.
For those of you that follow this little blog, things have been busy.
Busy with lots and lots of stuff. Some good, some not so good, but busy.

Also, some of why I haven’t been writing is that I just haven’t felt like I’ve had anything worth writing about or worth your time reading about.
That’s not completely true, but still.

I’ve definitely been tempted to write, but for silly reasons.
None that I felt were good or genuine.

Reasons like:
My OCD self, inflicting some false sense of need/responsibility to write.
All the other blogs I read are really consistent…. mostly.
I want to be cool.
I like looking at the stats of how many people checked my blog after I posted a tweet/FB notice that I have a new post because that means I wrote something good… maybe.
This is one of the few goals that I actually got going on my list of “To Do’s for 2012”.

To tell the truth, I’m also still kind of navigating the purpose of this blog.
Is there a specific goal/purpose to this blog?
Is this just about anything and everything? (I think that’s it).
Am I writing this blog for me or for others? Is it both?

I’ve also been confronted with a wanting to be more blunt and real on this blog about my everyday in’s and out’s, my feelings, my struggles. And not always in the sense of a well thought out and organized blog post. More like a mental vomit to just get it out because it needs to. I’ve also been a bit afraid of the ripple effects of doing something like that…

It’s been tough to be consistent. It’s been tough getting going. But I’m not giving up just yet.

I do have some stuff I’m gonna post soon, hopefully you’ll like!
I have a DIY project I did recently.
Some family fun times to post about as well as my wife’s and I Mother’s Day all day celebration.
I definitely am going to work on the “mental vomit” thing as well.

So stick around please. It is coming!

~Marc

The family and I had an awesome Easter weekend! I led co-led worship with London Gatch at Elevation Church‘s Seven Mile Miracle, at our Uptown location. It was amazing to see over the course of four experiences, multiple upon multiple hands go up to accept Christ as savior. It just never gets old.

Afterward we spent some time with friends. The next day I was off from work so we packed the boys in the car and headed over to Jeton Park in Huntersville for some sand and sunshine. Here are a couple of pics from the weekend.

Enjoy!

~Marc